DEAR Auntie Betty, I am a girl of 14 years and completed my basic education this year. I like people because my pastor told me that human beings are all the same no matter where they come from. Since then, I have had problems with my parents, especially my dad, who thinks that every boy I make friends with is in a relationship with me. But I have never thought of being in a relationship at all. Unfortunately for me, people believe what my dad is saying; so they call me ‘town helper’ which makes me feel bad.
I have lost almost all my friends because they say my dad is too rude and harsh on people.
Dear Ivy, Your pastor is right, all human beings are the same and should be treated with respect no matter where they come from. It is good to be nice to people but that does not mean that you should be seen associating with all manner of people.
For your parents or people to tag you as a bad girl means that you must be doing something wrong. The way you behave when you are around your friends may make people form their own opinions about you.
My dear Ivy, check the way you relate to people, so you do not raise eyebrows. The moment you are seen as a bad girl, it will be difficult for people to change their minds about you. It does not speak well of you as a young girl to make friends with only boys. This is because you can easily get tempted to cross the line.
You are still young, so it is not too late to turn things around. But that will depend on you from now on.
Your parents want the best for you, so make sure you relate to your female friends as well and they will gradually learn to trust you.