To wed or to marry? (3)
Come to think of it, why on Earth would you borrow or hire a Limousine for your wedding… when you don’t even have a Fiat… not even the 1900 model!? For what?
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I still don’t get it. Maybe I have just been brought up to hate borrowing. I am that butterfly that won’t call itself a bird!
We have plunged ourselves into more woes than ever trying to impress others. Whose records do you intend to break by impressing; Guinness Book of Records or Alomo Book of records?
Life would have been simpler if we accepted who we were and lived as such. That’s one hard thing to do especially if you are an African, I know. Listen, my dear.
You have only two people to impress in this world of ours; God and yourself. God won’t have you do your wedding for your debtors to come haunting and hunting for you in your dreams; neither would your own self wish you that.
Live within your means! All that money you may spend buying an expensive gown may be used to purchase a land, to start with.
Spend your money (and time) on your wedding. However, if you haven’t saved that much for a profitable venture, it is not wise to spend it all on a wedding.
If we had spent as much money and time on our individual businesses as we did on our weddings, we should have been very rich by now.
Expenditure can be cut down, if possible, for funds to be redirected into the family’s savings coffers. That is what we call investment into the family!
One needs to cut down on expenditure for today’s wants in place of tomorrow’s needs.
Spending on expensive photography, for instance, for your children someday to see won’t be as important as investing some of that money into their savings account when they are not even yet born. That’s what it indeed means to care about them… not expensive pictures and videos.
We have the most expensive weddings in our times yet the shortest life span of marriages. We rush to church for our wedding and soon after rush to court for divorce.
Is it a surprise? Of course not. All we want to do is just to wed… marriage is for another day.
At the slightest provocation, couples are at each other’s neck threatening a divorce because all they prepared for was indeed only a wedding… not marriage.
One should be prepared for marriage; especially the “for better and for worse” of it. No matter the strife that may come, the couple should still remain as one.
The next time you find a future wife (like I have), make sure which you indeed want to do; whether to wed or to marry. I, perhaps, don’t want to just wed. I want to marry. Mind you, I haven’t found her yet that is why I said future. Haha.