I lied to join group

BY: Hannah A Amoah

Dear Auntie Betty, I am 11 years old and in Class Six.
I observed that girls in my class who have started menstruating have formed a group page where they share their experiences on menstruation.
Out of curiosity, I lied about having had my first period so that I could join the group to know what was going on there.
However, I have realised it is not good to lie so I want to leave the group but I do not know how to go about it.
Jessica, Volta Region.


Dear Jessica, I am glad you have realised that lying is not good. The only thing you have to do now is to come clean with your friends and tell them the truth.
They will definitely be hurt because you have betrayed their trust but I am sure they will understand and let sleeping dogs lie.
You have to bear in mind that girls menstruate at different ages. Every girl’s body has its own schedule. Most girls get their first period at age 12. But some also start between ages 10 and 15 which is alright. You will definitely experience your menarche and so do not worry.
I suggest you first talk to the administrator of the page and then you write a sincere apology note on the page and then exit the group.
Although menstruation is a natural process and nothing to be ashamed of, it is important that you keep the trust and not go about discussing or telling others what you got to know about your friends on the page. It is not everyone who would like her experience to be public knowledge.
Lying is a basic moral wrong and it has consequences. When you are not truthful, people lose trust in you. People may always doubt what you say or do. So it is important that you are honest all the time no matter what it will cost you. Honesty is a virtue you should uphold all your life.
All the best.