Why worry?
There is a saying that goes like this “Experience is a good teacher”. If life is about learning and growing, why worry? Why worry about worse relationship?
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Why do we think our relationships are beyond life’s classroom? Every relationship – family, friendship, love and marriage – is about growth and development. There are certain skills we need.
Certain strengths we must develop. Certain lessons we must learn. Our relationships provide the perfect framework for us.
We come together to share, learn, and grow. Once we have acquired the skill, imparted the information or learned the lesson, it is time for something else. It is time to move on. That may feel like, “You don’t love me anymore.”
What it actually says is, “You don’t have anything else to give me.” If we could move beyond the emotion of it and look for the growth, ending a relationship, moving out of a family or friendship would be a great deal and less painful.
We want to learn how to be grateful for everything we get in our relations. Somewhere beyond the grief, fear, pain and disappointment is a mighty lesson just waiting to be learned.
There will be shock, denial, anger, confusion, fear, helplessness, numbness, and eventually, acceptance. There will be a point when we do not know what to do, but we want to do something. At that point we must understand and accept, there is no death; there is no end; there is only transformation.
Our loved one now exists in a new time, new place, new reality – and so do we. The relationship as we knew it has been transformed from the physical to the spiritual, from marriage to separation; from loveship to friendship; it has not ended; it has changed.
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When we allow ourselves to grieve, we release the negative thoughts and emotions that make it easier to accept the change. When we do not grieve, we get stuck.
Grief is natural, normal and to be expected. We owe it to ourselves and the memory of the relationship to grieve and cleanse our soul.
Yes! It is natural and normal to take time to grieve and prepare yourself for change and not worry about the change.
No matter what is happening in your relationships, fear nothing and no one. When you walk with the consciousness of the Creator, there is nothing to fear.
Do not fear that people will harm you or leave you. Do not fear people who threaten you.
Do not fear obstacles that confront you. Have no fear of harm to your body or possessions, walk with the strong arm of the law.
Do not fear disapproval. Do not fear criticism. Do not fear judgement. Know that the only energy that has any power in your life is the gift of breath from God.
Do not fear places. Do not fear darkness. Do not fear separation or divorce. Do not fear being alone. Do not fear being cast aside. When you walk with the Master, you are in the best company available.
Say this after me, “I will fear no evil: for thou art with me... Psalm 23:4”