Time to rate your relationship

BY: John Boakye
It is time to reflect on the past and plan for the future
It is time to reflect on the past and plan for the future

For a score with a range between 300-850, a score of 700 or above is generally considered good and a score of 800 and above considered excellent.

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As the year ends, it is important you rate your relationship because it is the greatest gift of our maker and therefore, the most important human investment.

Rating your relationship will help you celebrate the past, honour the present and strategise on what will make your relationship better in the coming year.

Some liabilities

You may be selfish and focus only on your needs.


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You show affection only when you need something from your lover.

Everything about the relationship starts and ends with you.

You refuse to apologise even if you are clearly in the wrong.

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You are controlling and show acts of intolerance, inequality and abuse.

You always play the blame game by seeing your lover as your problem.

You hide important information your lover must know and pick up fights over trivial issues.

You withdraw often and show constant acts of revenge. You never show appreciation or acts of kindness for what your lover does for you.

You have incompatible interests and never support each other in your future goals. You are in multiple relationships.

Communication is poor and you never discuss the future of your relationship

Some assets

You make time for each other and encourage each other in all areas of life. You are both honest and committed to your relationship.

You are kind and patient with each other.

You put the needs of your lover above yours and make great sacrifices for each other.

You fight fair and resolve your issues amicably. You see yourselves as equal partners and make mutual decisions.

You talk about your strengths, weaknesses, opportunities and threats.

You have a vision and mission for your relationship and you work at them. You communicate effectively.

Way forward

Take a close look at your relationship. The key to ‘rating’ your relationship is to draw a balance between your liabilities and assets.

If your liabilities exceed your assets, your rating is poor and your relationship could be at risk.

With poor rating, you have two options; if it’s hopeless, be bold and leave. There is no point staying in a relationship that is clinically dead.

Never put your life on hold for anybody in the name of a relationship.

Never believe that a bad relationship is better than nothing because a bad lover can unmake you for life.

A bad person can never be a good lover. It is time to ‘drop that yam’.

If your liabilities and assets cancel out your relationship may be satisfactory.

Give yourself a second chance because any relationship can get better if lovers show commitment and work at the relationship.

The good news is that studies show in most cases it takes one committed partner to make it healthy.

Resolve to be the burden bearer and not the burden.

If your assets far exceed your liabilities, pat each one on the shoulder and resolve to do even better because your relationship can always get better.

The advice is simple. Do a complete assessment of your relationship and be determined to increase your ‘credit rating’.

With honesty, effective communication, commitment, unconditional love, forgiving spirit and prayer, you can get a very good rating for your relationship.

Go for it.

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