MEN play different roles in their lives: friend, brother, co-worker, neighbour, partner, and so on. But some roles take on a toxic life of their own, especially when they cross boundaries into relationships and into the world of getting the woman you want.
There are certain roles that guys often (and sometimes unknowingly) adopt that sabotage relationships with the women they love. In moderation, these roles are like wine — fine and sometimes even healthy. But when these roles become a man’s entire persona, the relationship turns into a headache of a union that leaves both parties swearing off dating for good.
Here are the seven types of men who seem great, but actually make relationships miserable:
1. The Father: The man who fills the Father role offers support, safety, and security. A woman finds this attractive because it makes her feel safe and reassured.
In reality, though, the Father doesn’t see his partner as an equal; he sees her as someone who fills the role of a daughter, as someone he needs to parent and control.
What this eventually creates is a dynamic where the woman rebels and does things just to spite her man, because that’s what happens if you treat someone like a child .
2. The Bad Boy: The Bad Boy is exciting, he’s daring and he’s adventurous. He’s attractive because he’s not trying to please anyone; he’s simply being who he is, and this type of honesty is something many people seek in a relationship.
The downside to him is that a woman can never truly trust the Bad Boy. He’s honest, yes, but he’s only true to himself, in other words, he’s selfish. This means that if he wants to be with another woman, he’ll have no qualms about doing so. After all, it’s his way or the highway.
3. The Nice Guy: The Nice Guy is the guy who is ideal for bringing home to Mom and Dad for his compassion, understanding, reliability, and moldability. He'll sacrifice himself to make sure he wins the approval of others.
He looks great on paper. But, like paper, he's flat and one-dimensional, and that's why a relationship with him becomes something women eventually want to shred.
The Nice Guy is impossible to date long-term or start a future with because women feel trapped by him. He’s the opposite of a jerk, yet, his emotional dishonesty makes it hard to trust him.
4. The Knight in Shining Armour: When a woman relies fully on her man, she becomes codependent. By expecting someone to save her again and again, she fails to develop the necessary skills to save herself.
Their relationship then evolves into one where the woman needs her man, even if she doesn’t necessarily want him. This gives the Knight in Shining Armour a sort of power and dominance over her that is never healthy.
5. The Business Man: The Business Man is rational, predictable, and concerned with fairness. These are traits that get him promoted at his firm, but in love, they can turn him into a miser who is so concerned with things being equal that he keeps track of who pays for what.
Romance isn’t the Business Man’s forte. He's all about his work, and his relationships fall by the wayside and, as such, his partner fades into the background. A relationship isn't a transaction.
6. The Peter Pan: Straight out of Neverland, Peter Pan is the man who has never grown up. He’s fun, for sure, and women adore his whimsical nature, his light-hearted playfulness, go-with-the-flow attitude, and spontaneity. But everyone has to grow up at some point.
What Peter Pan fails to get is his partner’s respect. He has plans that his woman knows will never come to fruition. He isn’t willing to put in hard work or consistent effort, and he’s a perpetual underachiever.
He can’t actually deal with real emotions and real problems, and that makes his relationships ultimately very fake.
7. The Seducer: The Seducer has one focus: his woman. He says exactly what she wants to hear and makes her feel like she’s more attractive than any other girl in the whole world. That, of course, makes him compelling.
The problem is that the Seducer doesn’t really desire a relationship; he merely wants the chase to flatter his own self-worth. Once he lands his conquest, he isn’t sure what to do with her.
He’s scared by the thought of a long-term relationship and is not marriage material.
Source: yourtango.com
