5 New Year’s dating resolutions you need to use
We know. New Year’s resolutions can be loathsome. Why must a change in approach to anything, much less our dating lives, be marked by a change in year on the calendar?
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Well, our answer is the same one you give to your friends when you have to describe why someone is “the one” without any tangible proof: It just feels right.
Here are five resolutions to fix the way you date in 2015.
Resolution: Date analog
For those of us who have spent the past 365 days swiping left and right on Tinder, maybe going old school would yield some different results. It’s not the most popular thing, to discourage online dating, especially when the way we engage in that space makes it easy for there to be an uptick in your quantity of dates — but that might be the issue.
Dating online is almost too easy. Step back and tell yourself you’re not going to date someone you meet online until you go out on at least one date with someone you meet in the real world.
Resolution: Date digital
Yes, we just told you to get offline and start meeting people in real life, but this is for those who have been doing it the way of our parents’ parents for far too long. Look, it’s 2015. If you’re still reluctant to come around to online dating, I don’t know what to tell you to change your mind.
There’s a wonderful world of single people at your fingertips, and not doing it doesn’t make you “normal.” It makes you similar to the type of people who still go to the public library and use the Dewey Decimal System. Don’t be one of those people.
To ease yourself into online dating, start with okcupid.com, if only because it’s free and, therefore, fair for all parties. Create a profile, throw up a couple of pictures and see what happens.
Resolution: No more free meals
Challenge yourself to make the first date something other than the traditional dinner and drinks. Put more thought into your first meet-up and refuse to go out with anyone until you’ve come up with a solid game plan as to how you’re going to get to know this person.
Resolution: Forget about your type
If you’re like most people, you’re in denial about the fact that you don’t have a type. Everyone has a type, and that isn’t a bad thing. It’s just how we’re wired. We like what we like, and rarely do any of us like every single person.
Don’t believe us? Ask your friends if you have a type. If they’re honest, they’ll probably point out consistencies they see in all the people you date. Use those as a guide to find someone outside of your comfort zone.
Resolution: Sign up for Meet Market
Shameless plug, sure, but by participating in The Post’s blind-date section, you’re actually meeting a couple of the above dating resolutions. There’s a digital aspect to it in the sense that if you’re interested, you should e-mail us. But there’s also the analog aspect: If you’re set up with someone, the first time you meet will be in person. There’s a good chance the person you’re matched with isn’t the type of person you would normally date, and in more ways than one.
The only part of the Meet Market experience that doesn’t meet the requirement of a resolution? If you go through with it, there is a free meal. Literally. We set up the date, the person you’re going out with, and we take care of the costs. That’s not only a good deal, it’s an adventurous one.
