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8 Ways you’re sabotaging your sex

8 Ways you’re sabotaging your sex life

Yes, it's possible you're kind of ruining your own sex life, but the good news is there may be an easy fix. Read on to find out.

1. You're having sex just to have sex: If all your friends are hooking up but your body is telling you it's not into that, you might end up drinking a lot or eating a lot to drown out the message your body is telling you. You need some level of disconnect to do it if it's not coming from your authentic sexual appetite. That will affect how good the sex is.


2. You're expecting sex to be just like it was last time: Your brain mainly remembers your last sexual experience when anticipating sex.

But if you're horny and expect sex with your partner to be just like the sex you've had with them before, chances are it won't be.

If you don't get that again, it actually diminishes the desire to have sex with them next time. Try to take each time you have sex as a fresh encounter without expectations.

3. You're idealising what the sex is going to be like: If you idealise a sexual encounter, then you set yourself up for failure.

If it doesn't go as well as you'd hoped, you'll either think you have a problem with your partner or there's something wrong with you, because your expectations are way off the grid.

On the other hand, if you have negative expectations that something's going to hurt or you'll be disappointed, you're more likely to have a negative experience.

4. You're expecting the other person to magically fulfill all your sexual needs: Someone could do one thing and it'll turn you on and someone else could do it and it won't turn you on.

So if you think your partner has to turn you on, you're giving up all your sexual power. Focus on what's erotic for you and try to turn yourself on.

5. You're not making an effort to have positive sex memories: Think about past sexual experiences for a few minutes every day, and think about experiences that make your heart flutter, because that sets you up for having more of those moments in the future. If you keep reinforcing those thoughts, it makes it easier to have them happen again.

6. Anger and resentment are affecting your sexual desire: If you're angry at someone, you don't want them to get close to you.

Then if it builds up and you start to resent someone, you really push them away. Resentment is one of the big killers of sexual desire.

If you don't deal with anger pretty quickly after it happens, it's very difficult to move on from.

7. You're not fully understanding the cause of your sexual problems: When you're anxious, you tend to ruminate on negative thoughts over and over, so you're certainly not thinking sexy thoughts.

Figure out what the root issue is and treat that first.

8.You're being casual about sex, instead of having casual sex: People often think they'll have a quick and easy approach to sex, but sex really goes to the deepest part of your brain that's connected to emotion, so if you're not in a place where you feel trusting or comfortable, you're not going to have mind-blowing sex.

It doesn't even have to be in a committed relationship.

You can have casual sexual relationships that are deep and intense because you feel safe, you feel trust and the other person is really connecting with you. Having casual sex and being casual about sex are very different.

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