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On Valentine’s Day; Whatever you do, don’t engage in intimacy

On Valentine’s Day; Whatever you do, don’t engage in intimacy

“Mary, what are you going to give Mark on Saturday, St Valentine’s Day?” Adjoa  asked her friend.

“Valentine’s Day? Mary asked. Why do I have to give him something?”

“Well, because I thought you two were in a relationship. Don’t you know that you need to give him something special on the day set aside for lovers?”

“Mark is just a friend and I don’t need to give him anything.”

“Well, I intend to give Justice something very special to prove my undying love for him. Besides, he says he will be the happiest guy on earth if we became intimate this Valentine”.

“You can’t be serious, Adjoa. Your virginity is the most treasured asset you have; why are you going to give it out just like that and at such a young age. Do you want to get pregnant and end your dreams?”

Indeed, Adjoa is not the only young person being pressured to prove her love for someone this Valentine or any other time for that matter.

Sometimes, boys and girls engage in intimate relations when they have no intention to do so. They may be pressured by peers to engage in sex as a way to prove their love or show appreciation for the money or gift they received from a member of the opposite sex.

When one is faced with a situation such as this, the first thing one has to remember is that engaging in sexual activity at an early age could be dangerous. It puts one at risk of getting pregnant (if you are a girl), ending one’s dreams and being infected with sexually transmitted infections (STIs), including HIV and AIDS which will cut short your life.

The best way to protect oneself against being pressured to have sex is by recognising and avoiding situations where one may be forced to engage in sex — that is deciding not to enter into any boy-girl relationship now or avoiding a situation where one feels one has to pay back with sex for a good deed done to him or her.

Also it is always crucial to think twice and ask yourself whether you will be ready to deal with the consequences of any decision or action you take at this age.

Think about your dreams and goals in life and decide whether what you are going to do is important to sacrifice your dreams and goals for.

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