5 things happy couples do every day
I’m sure most would agree that marriage takes a bit of work. But, what “thing” worth having doesn’t? We all have our good days and just okay days.
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Sometimes it takes a while to get out the valley of “bad” days as a married couple. Do you know a couple that seems to be really happy? Have you ever asked a couple that you admire, just how they do it? Here are 5 things super happy couples do every day.
1. Make time to connect.
This is so important. My husband is actually away A LOT, and absence truly does make the heart grow fonder. I miss him like crazy, everyday! When we’re together (and, yes before now) we make sure we have “screen-free” time. We have to talk to each other without holding or sitting in front of anything with a screen (i.e. laptop, cell phone, TV, iPad). My husband eats, sleeps, and breathes his job so, 30 minutes of this is enough to square away minor details, catch up on highs/lows, and grab a quick kiss before one of us is pulled away by something or a little person.
2. Remind each other that you’re sexy.
Well, I must admit I don’t do this enough. My husband, on the other hand, is dangerously generous in this department. I complain about muffin tops and cottage cheese thighs and this guy compliments and reminds me of how much of me he loves me, INCLUDING my muffins without hesitation! He knows it’s nothing personal, I just don’t hand them out as freely as I should. I love him like cooked food and I know that I need to better.
3. Share a guilty pleasure.
A lot of couples have a favorite show or other fun secret little indulgences. As a couple, I don’t think my husband and I share one and quite frankly I feel that it is because we fall into the “opposites attract” end of the spectrum. If laughing and enjoying ice cold beer and “extra volcano” buffalo wings together doesn’t count, we’ll have to work on this one..
4. Enrich yourselves as individuals.
At this juncture in our lives, we have no choice because of our physical separation. I am into blogging, which is relaxing and very enjoyable and he is taking guitar lessons in his spare time. I have to say, seeing him hold that thing is sexy (Ok, back to number two..I’ll tell him).
So, yes, we are doing that and it helps because it keeps you interesting and engaging. I remind him that I need other types of self-enrichment all the time (massages, pedicures, manicures, etc) as well. Hey, it’s all relative!
5. Get spiritual together.
This is our common ground. And it is VITAL. He understands my spirit, even when my attitude is terrible. We pray together, for each other and over each other. I’m so happy being his help-mate and supporting him as the head of the family.
If the spiritual connection weren’t there, I think we would be so much more vulnerable. We all know that having a vulnerable, weak link in your marriage is not good at all. Regardless of your religious affiliation, a marriage needs a TON of faith, belief in each other, and a Higher Power, greater than the two of you. We have a framed poem in our bathroom called Marriage Takes Three: Husband, Wife, and Christ (in the center).
I couldn’t imagine it any other way. A couple that is the epitome of unconditional love for each other is something we should all strive for. As married couples, we should all have a mentor couple. A couple that you look up to and a couple that is committed to the institution of marriage, not just by their words, but by their actions.
Please know that all marriages have their differences, some just know what to do with what they have — and that’s each other.