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Want to get over your ex?

BY: Arku Jasmine

Want to get over an ex? We've all been there, and sometimes chocolate and rom coms don't cut it. For that extra bit of help, follow these tips from sex and relationship expert Joanna Coker for to move on successfully.

Take time to rebuild your relationship with yourself

"Often in order to make a relationship work we try to put our partner's wants and needs before our own. As a result, when the relationship ends we can find it difficult to know what makes us feel fulfilled in our own right. This can lead us to hold onto a relationship we know is over because we feel lost without it. Rebuilding your relationship with yourself is the first step to moving on. Take a step back and think about all the things you enjoyed doing before you started the relationship, learn to enjoy your own company – even if it's sitting in a café on your own with a good book or going for a long walk."

Set yourself a new goal or pursue an old ambition

"Your new found freedom gives you the time to pursue new goals or resume old ones that have been put on the back burner because you were investing so much time in your relationship. Whether you have always fancied yourself as a budding entrepreneur or simply want to learn a new skill, investing your time and energy on something which produces positive results will do wonders for your confidence and help you move on more easily."

Spend time with those who increase your feelings of self-worth

"During the course of a relationship we may neglect other close relationships such as with friends and family which can make us feel even more isolated when the relationships ends. If so, it may be time to pick up the phone and start reconnecting with those who knew and loved you pre – relationship. Spending time with people who make you feel good about yourself will increase your feelings of self-worth and help you to avoid seeking comfort with your ex."

Exercise away the blues

"During sex your body produces endorphins which act as a natural anti-depressant, lifting your mood and relieving stress. Exercise is a great substitute because it releases the same endorphins and induces the same general state of well-being – even 10 minutes of moderate exercise is enough to improve your mood. In addition, exercise will help your body to look and feel better which will help yourself confidence and put you in a better frame of mind to leave your past relationship behind and move on to pastures new."

Discover new pleasurable sensations

"If you are missing the intimate side of your relationship, falling into the arms of a rebound lover can get messy and complicated- instead focus on yourself, explore your own body and have fun discovering new pleasurable sensations. has a wide range of pleasure products that can help you experiment with solo indulgence. If this is a new experience, going for something small and non- intimidating like an intimate massager or a bullet is a great way to get started."