No more excuses!
When you are in a bad relationship and feel like it's time to get out, you usually know it. Deep, deep down, you know it. You lie awake at night, wondering what it will take to make you get out. But then you come up with a bunch of excuses. And they're usually pretty lame ones.
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I'm not talking about the big reasons, like you have a child together. I'm talking those excuses that can keep you going for years but that when you finally get out, you'll look back and can't even remember what silly reasons you came up with for staying so long.
What's the lamest reason you've stayed in a bad relationship?
Ever been in a relationship that you know isn't right but you stay in it anyway? Maybe its the fear of breaking up or maybe you're in denial. Either way, you start to come up with excuses of why you should stay. Lame excuses.
Here are some lame excuses people use to stay in bad relationships.
• Holidays. Holidays are always a great (read: lame) excuse to stay in a bad relationship. But it's almost New Year's Eve. I can't be alone on New Year's Eve! But it's almost my birthday.
But there's hardly a month that goes by without some sort of holiday. I've seen people use this particular excuse for years.
• Your single friends. All of them complain about being single so relentlessly that you figure it's probably better to be in a bad relationship than to be single and complaining about guys you hardly know.
• Your coupled friends. They, too, complain about their relationships. Hey, if everyone is complaining, then being in a bad relationship is normal, right? Wrong.
• Sex. The rest of the relationship may be hell, but the sex is still pretty good, so you stick around for that.
• Not a good time. Whether it's a holiday or birthday or whatever else is going on, it's just not a good time. In reality, life is always going to be throwing something at you.
Rare is the time when absolutely everything is going your way. There's never a good time for a break-up.
• He's too nice. You know it's all wrong and you don't want to have a future with this person, but since he hasn't done anything awful you feel like you don't have the "right" to break up with him.
If you're not feeling it, and it's not just because you have unrealistic expectations, then you have the right to break up with someone, even if he's "nice."
If you don't, you're liable to cheat on him just so you can get out. Better to go with some dignity.
There's probably no one better out there. Maybe not. That's not the point. The point is that you're miserable. Better to be alone and content than coupled up and unhappy.
• You don't like confrontation. Oh, boy, this one could go on for eons. It's not fair to the other person to stay in a relationship you don't want just because you don't want to make anyone upset.
You'll make the person upset eventually because you'll do something to sabotage the relationship and hope your partner decides to leave.
Why not do it while you can still look your significant other in the eye and be kind but honest? He or she deserves that.