Do something new
It is good to start your year with resolutions because a life without a mission and vision is like a dead leaf drifting on the sea. However, as you draw out your resolutions, appreciate that your relationship is the most important human investment because a healthy relationship spills over to boost all areas of your life. On the other hand, a poor relationship can make or unmake you for life.
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The most important agent to fly your relationship to great heights is love. This is because whereas all other things such as money, fame and academic qualifications may fail, love never fails. It is a gift of self-giving .
You put the needs of your lover ahead of you. True love, therefore, has a price to pay as you go through service, sacrifice and suffering to make your lover better. Whatever you have done in the past in the name of love, resolve to make it better; do something new for your relationship.
Show deeper commitment.
Your positive attitude to your relationship is to work at it and make it work, no matter what your first step to success is.
Be bold. Hold on and never give up on your relationship. If you see your relationship as good, good things will happen.
Deepen your honesty.
It is the foundation of a happy relationship. Where there is honesty, trust is free to grow. It becomes easier to know and understand your lover so that you meet his or her emotional needs.
You must resolve to be clear and straightforward. Do not deliberately misinform your lover about anything that affects your relationship.
Make time for your lover.
Time together is the greatest bonding agent. Make time to share all areas of your life. Companionship gives positive self-image, security, peace of mind and self-image. Go out often. Share a meal.
Go to places you have never been. Have fun because it boosts your motivation. Find new pet name for your lover.
Verbalise your gratitude.
Each day, find something good your lover does, small or big and show appreciation. The more grateful you are, the stronger your relationship.
To live in gratitude is to touch heaven.
Send gifts often.
Gifts are expressions of love. When you give, you see your lover as valuable. Your lover feels cherished and responds more positively to you.
You must, therefore, give regularly, especially for no reason. Don’t wait till special occasions.
Always appreciate that your gifts need not be expensive. It is the thought that matters.
Forgive unconditionally.
This year, expect to have challenges because a relationship without challenges is indeed dead. See the challenges as opportunities to nurture your relationship because conflicts well-handled lead to positive outcomes in your relationship.
Today, studies show that the majority of our health challenges come from unforgiving spirit.
The Akans say nobody drinks medicine for the sick. This means anytime you forgive your lover, you heal your yourself. You are the only one who benefits when you forgive and not your lover who offends you.
Forgiveness is, therefore, a gift from you to you. It is only when you forgive that you can truly love.
Do something new
Put a spark into your relationship. Spice it up in new and better ways. You can’t do the same things over and over and expect better results in your relationship. This year, do something new.
Your positive attitude is key to the success of your relationship. Your lover will sense your aroma of success and will be positively affected by it.
Visualise success in your relationship. Feel it . Expect it.
May God give you the desire of your heart and make all your dreams come true (Ps. 20;4)
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The writer is the Director of Eudoo Counselling Centre, West Legon. He is also the author of ‘Your guide to Marriage’ ‘Love Unlimited’ and ‘The journey of love’
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