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4 signs you’re destroying good relationship!

 

Imagine if you hit the “jackpot of love.” You’d finally have everything you’ve ever wanted in a man. Wouldn’t that be absolutely amazing?

All you’d need to do is to enjoy your wonderful guy and live happily ever after. Sounds easy but unfortunately that’s not always true.

In my years as a relationship coach, I’ve worked with women who actually did hit the “jackpot of love.” They find the man of their dreams. And then they do everything in their power to completely sabotage the relationship.

Let’s use Maggie (not her real name) as an example. After years of being in one dramatic, unhealthy relationship after another, she was finally ready for a change.

She’d decided it was time to put in the work to find the one and create a healthy, committed, lasting relationship. Then…JACKPOT! Maggie struck it rich in love.

She met Mr Right: Handsome, smart, funny, charming, successful, and — here’s the best part — totally into her! But then Maggie freaked out.

One of her emails read, “Paige, I don’t know what my deal is. I love this man. I’m trying to believe he loves me. But it all seems too good to be true. I feel like I’m just waiting for the other shoe to drop.”

Instead of feeling confident and worthy, she began to let insecurity and fear take hold. And then she did everything in her power to sabotage this amazing new relationship.

You see Maggie was used to heartache and settling for less than she deserved. Even though it was painful, it felt familiar.

Sidestep the “curse”

Don’t let yourself fall victim to the Curse of the Relationship Jackpot.

Next week we shall discuss the four “red alert” warning signs to destroying your relationship and how you can stop it.

Warning sign one – You choose fear over faith

Sure, it can be scary to let go and fall in love. What if it ends? What if you get hurt? Well, what’s the alternative…To be alone and miserable?

I’d say it’s worth the risk to open your heart and let it be flooded with happiness.

Warning sign two – You react emotionally

Often, the things we have the urge to do or say in a moment of emotional weakness are NOT what we would do or say when we’ve had some time to process our thoughts and feelings.

We serve up a big dose of drama when we react emotionally to situations instead of taking a five-minute “time out” to think things through and act rationally.

Warning sign three  – You obsess about the future

One of the biggest dating mistakes a woman can make is asking a man what he thinks about a future together, or pressuring him to define the status of the relationship too soon.

Just go with it. The right time will come to discuss the future. For now, try to think like a man and just enjoy the present!

Warning sign four – You stop dating yourself

The only way to feel truly happy and whole is to complete ourselves by living a full and satisfying life.

One of the worst things you can do when you get into a relationship is to abandon the things that are important to you (friends, passions, career goals, hobbies, etc).

So no matter how serious your relationship, always date yourself first. When you stop expecting your partner to be responsible for your happiness, you eliminate pressure and drama.

 

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