As women, we come to a point in life, where we want to stop messing around and learn how to find true love.

This may also be the perfect time to set some goals for your love life, stop hanging aroung guys who are you using you (even if you're using them back!) and learn how to identify the kind of man you want to date. I like to call him "Mr. Boyfriend Material."

It is beautiful to fall in love and crown it all with a wedding.

You look back on your wedding day- the dressing, rings, exchange of vows, reception and gifts and think you will live happily forever.However, with time, the romantic love fades and you see the bad side of your lover.

They say you never know a good thing till it’s gone. But when it comes to breakups, there’s another phrase that rings true: hindsight is 20/20.

In the aftermath of a messy split, it can be hard to have clarity.

Sometimes after a long stretch without being in a relationship, it’s tempting to start dating someone new just because you’re both available. 

You may be lonely or afraid you’ll never find that special someone to spend your life with. 

After dating your significant other for a few months or years, you may be hoping to settle down and get married one day. However, your partner may have other plans. He or she may be content with just spending time with you and have no intentions of tying the knot.

If you never settle down and grow old with that special someone, don’t despair. A Pew Research report found more Americans are likely to remain single throughout their lifetime.

Here’s a common scenario: You meet someone new, and one look is all it takes to light the fuse of sexual fireworks. You can barely keep your hands off each other — and the excitement of it all feels like falling in love.

But is it really? Can simple lust masquerade as something more? Is it possible to spot the absence of real romance soon enough to avoid making a bad investment?

Some three years ago, a young woman in a relationship with a man of her dreams visited him unannounced and found him in bed with her closest friend.

They were so engrossed that they didn’t know somebody was watching.

Studies show every human being has between 50,000 to 70,000 thoughts a day. If we are uniquely different in our temperament and sexuality, then no matter how much we love each other, we will have different views, thoughts and needs.

In relationships, partners reinforce and deepen their oneness through effective communication and sharing ideas.

If you find yourself in this situation, where your man is perfect but the sex life is lacking, take a look at this advice before you waste too many years on sex that doesn’t make your toes curl.

1. Find The Root Cause

What makes it so bad? Is it a compatibility issue? Is it boring? Maybe sex can be bad because you’re experiencing sexual pain. According to Marin, we need to spend some time figuring out what exactly makes it so bad in order to fix it.

The searing pain of a failed relationship is the greatest suffering many of us will ever experience. Being heartbroken can make you feel worthless and hopeless - but that is because the frame you are using is too narrow. Learning to see your situation with a different frame is a wonderful liberation.

Here are ten things that one can do in that situation.

There is obviously a first time for everything in life and taking the first step usually comes with anxieties and apprehensions. When the initiator of the action is you, and it involves the matters of the heart, you surely want to do it right and be very impressive.

Human nature is selfish. We fight for what we need, when and how we need it. If our needs are not met we blame our lovers. We ignore the lump in our eyes and criticise the speck in our lover’s eyes.

When something goes wrong, you have the natural tendency to point a finger at your lover. You think you are right and your lover is wrong. She thinks she is right and you are wrong. Call it the blame game.

You have finally met someone you’re interested in. But maybe you’re feeling shy. Maybe you are reluctant to make a move. Maybe you’re concerned about coming on too strong.

Not to worry. Here are subtle yet strategic ways to convey your interest. Read this list before your next date, just as a little reminder!

When you glance across the breakfast table every morning to see the same crumpled face, and crawl into bed every night beside the same snoring body, it can be so easy to accept your long-term lot and shuffle into amiable companionship a million miles from the heady passion of when you and your partner first met.

The truth is that the fresh thrill of love simply can’t burn as brightly as it did at the start of a relationship after decades of marriage, but that doesn’t mean you have to accept the descent into tetchy boredom.

Have you ever known or heard of a guy who was a confirmed bachelor who completely turned around and committed to a lady?

This guy drifted from relationship to relationship, never quite settling down, until this woman showed up and sort of "swept him off his feet."

Courtship is a process of developing a closer friendship with the opposite sex with the idea of a possible marriage. It is a period to test, examine and evaluate a lover’s inner characters, values, interests and life purposes.

Courtship is like the foundation of a house. It is not seen but crucially important. It is, therefore, a time for very hard work or serious business, definitely not fun time.

Some relationships are strong enough to last a lifetime, and it's not attributed to luck or chance. It's thanks to continuous efforts from both parties and a desire to be together.

There are certain qualities that should never be missing from a loving partnership, and once they are, it's only a matter of time until things start to fall apart.

Divorces are known to break a heart or two but in one case in Japan, an extra 54 violins were left in tatters.

A woman has been arrested for destroying her former partner's violin collection and 70 bows, together worth 105.9m yen ($950,700, £770,000).