Don’t be sad. It’s his problem, not yours. I’m sure there are numerous men out there who are attracted to you and don’t mind at all that you hog the remote, get text messages at 2 a.m. and pass gas in your sleep. We all have our little quirks.
Women like to be chosen, plain and simple.Even the big loud-mouthed ones like me. And if you do the asking, you aren’t letting the guy take that step. You undermine his ability and urge to initiate action.
I like bald guys. It is not just that I don't mind if a guy is losing his hair. I think it's hot. While I recognize that not every 16-year-old girl has a crush on her balding biology teacher, I think women should give bald men another look.
BY: Hadiza Nuhhu-Billa Quansah / The Mirror / Ghana
There is the growing suspicion among some fathers over the paternity of their children and they have consequently requested DNA (deoxyribonucleic acid) test to establish the true paternity of such children.
Let’s be honest: From the moment we’re born, we’re all dying just as we’re living. But certain mundane things we do every day may actually be helping us get there faster. None of this means we should even try to eliminate these behaviors from our lives entirely, but it’s proof that overdoing anything, even when seemingly innocuous, can have serious impacts on our health. Below we’ve rounded up 11 everyday things you’re probably doing that could potentially shorten your lifespan.
1. You’re having a hard time finding love.
Having a difficult time finding a mate can shave off months of your life, while being single for prolonged periods of time could cost you a whole decade. A study found that communities with gender ratios skewing significantly more male or female caused the minority s*x to have shorter lifespans. Even when exposed to short time frames of competition, such as attending a high school entirely of one gender, participants were found to have generally shorter lives.
On top of all this, another study found that never getting married could increase risk of death over a lifetime by 32 percent, and led to the previously mentioned loss of a decade.
2. You’re sitting down for more than a few hours every day.
Two whole years of your life could be cut just from sitting more than three hours a day. Australian researchers found that even regular exercise couldn’t deter the potential negative effects of sitting for long stretches of time. Another study published in the JAMA Internal Medicine found that sitting for more than 11 hours a day increased the risk of death by 40 percent over the next three years, compared to sitting for under four hours a day. Time to get that stand-up desk.
3. No Friends.
People with weak social connections were found to die at much higher rates than their counterparts, according to research. The same researchers found that prolonged loneliness could be as bad for your lifespan as smoking 15 cigarettes a day.
On top of all this, elderly people with large circles of friends were found to be 22 percent less likely to die over a tested study period, and those social connections generally promote brain health in aging brains.
4. You’re vegging out in front of your TV.
Watching just two hours of television a day can lead to an increased risk of premature death, heart disease and Type 2 diabetes, according to Harvard researchers. The negative effects of watching television seem to overlap with the potential negative effects of sitting too much, but watching television seems to make the negative effects of sitting even worse. According to the New York Times, “every single hour of television watched after the age of 25 reduces the viewer’s life expectancy by 21.8 minutes.”
5. You’re eating too much unhealthy food.
Perhaps this sounds obvious, but the truth is that so many of us continue to do it. As far as what foods to especially avoid, eating red meat seems to shorten life expectancy by as much as 20 percent when eating extra portions.
6. You’re still looking for a job.
Being unemployed can increase a person’s risk of premature death by 63 percent. Other more specific studies found that “the two factors most strongly associated with higher death rates were smoking and not having a job.” Another found that older people who lost their jobs during the recession could have seen their lifespan decrease by as many as three years.
7. You’re dealing with a long commute.
Commutes of about an hour have been found to increase stress and have been linked to the same negative effects as sitting. Long commutes also reduce the likelihood that individuals will consistently participate in health related activities. The greatest lifespan risk is with female commuters, who were found to have significantly shorter lifespans after consistently commuting for 31 miles or more. The cause for the dip in female life expectancies has been the topic of much speculation lately, but while the Swedish research was able to link commuting to obesity, insomnia and a higher rate of divorce, it wasn’t able to pinpoint why female mortality rates are higher.
8. You’re having a dry-spell.
A study among men found that failing to climax for extended periods of time can potentially cause your mortality rate to be 50 percent higher than for those who have frequent orgasms. This result was found even when controlling for factors such as age, smoking, and social class. On the opposite spectrum, orgasms have been linked to quite a few additional health benefits.
9. You’re putting up with annoying co-workers.
Missing out on strong connections with your co-workers can also potentially mean missing out on a longer life. Peer social support, which could represent how well a participant is socially integrated in his or her employment context, is a potent predictor of the risk of all causes of mortality. Although having feelings of encouragement coming from bosses and managers didn’t seem to affect the subjects’ lifespans, those who reported feelings of low social support at work were 2.4 times more likely to die over the study period.
10. You’re not sleeping enough (or maybe too much?)
Harvard Medical School points out that research has shown that life expectancies significantly decrease in subjects who average less than five or more than nine hours a night.
Most of us suffer from too little rather than too much sleep, but research suggests there truly is a sleep “sweet spot” — at least if you’re primarily concerned about living for as long as possible.
Chronic lack of sleep is associated with a greater risk of cardiovascular disease, diabetes, some cancers, dementia, cognitive and memory problems, weight gain and early death. And some research shows that too much (dramatically, unusually too much) regular sleep could be problematic as well.
Research has also shown that we need an average of eight hours to function optimally, but another, somewhat controversial study found that getting more than seven hours of sleep a night has been linked to shortened lifespans.
11. You’re fearing death or that you won’t live for as long as you’d like.
This is a painful paradox. A fear of a shortened lifespans, or Thanatophobia, can potentially end up causing – a shortened lifespan. A 2012 study on cancer patients ended up finding that, “life expectancy was perceived as shortened in patients with death anxiety.”
Outside of cancer patients, an intense fear of death can also lead to a three to five times increase in the risk of cardiovascular ailments, according to research on Americans who feared death from another terrorist attack following Sept. 11, 2001. Although a slight fear of death has been shown to have positive benefits, like an increase in exercise and healthy eating, the fear has been shown to significantly affect lifespans, especially in adults nearing the age of being considered elderly. These effects can also be correlated to especially paranoid people having weaker connections with society and increased feelings of alienation – the negative effects of which were both discussed above.
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According to a leading internet divorce and separation resource website- 50-60% of committed men and 45-50% of committed women engage in extramarital affairs at some point in their relationships. No, we are not trying to scare you by these statistics, but just making you more aware of certain facts.
Although they say you should never judge a book by its cover, they never say anything about judging it after you read a little bit. On that same idea, think about how much time, energy and heartache you could save if you could determine if the guy you are dating is indeed relationship material?
While there are many subtle hints of different types of lovers in us all, there’s one kind of lover that sticks out and defines us for the kind of lover we are and that’s the way your lover and the rest of the world would see you.
It turned out that there’s no BEST way to make a guy fall in love with you but in fact, there are actually a series of steps which, if followed correctly can make that guy you like, fall in love with you.
Step 1 – Attraction:
This is the first and probably most important step. Almost 99% of the time, a guy’s interest can and will be started with attraction. If there’s no attraction, then the chances of that guy falling for you are pretty slim.
This does not mean that you have to look like Scarlet Johansson, because beauty alone does not define attraction. It all comes down to your inner confidence, being comfortable with who you are and what you look like.
Taking care of yourself is absolutely paramount, regardless of where you are in a relationship. Things like exercise can have a profound impact on how you look but also on how you feel about yourself. You don’t have to go through some grueling diets or insane exercise programs. Find something that you love doing and try your best to stick to it. This can be anything from running 15 minutes a day, going to zumba classes, yoga, doing some at home workout programs. The basic gist of it is that if you love doing it, you’re going to do it more often and stick to it for a much longer period of time.
Also, keep in mind these scientifically proven beauty tips to get a guy interested:
• Red Lips – Studies have shown on countless occasions that red lips make a woman more attractive. It’s usually believed that it works because red lips represent a sign of fertility.
• Lined Lids – Another known fact is that mascara and eye-lines create a contrast that enhances your feminine sensuality.
• Thick Locks – Hair is the first thing men notice about a woman even before the br**sts. The hair is also the medium in which women release the highest amount of pheromones so, a clean, thick, shiny hair is a good indication of good health and will surely attract men all around you.
• Flushed Cheeks – This is yet another sign of fertility and youth that makes you more attractive and appealing to men. A subtle pale Pink blush for a fresh natural look will go a long way.
And let’s not forget about the clothes you wear. It’s always important to dress in order to flatter and complement your personal style. Never wear something that you’re not comfortable with, guys will be able to sense it and it’s a major turn off.
All of these tips can be implemented by ANY woman because they have nothing to do with your actual physical appearance.
Step 2 – Breeze Through It
There’s some attraction and you started to meet up. You have started talking more often, texting but don’t really know where this is going. Don’t dwell on that, just breez through it.
Don’t obsess, don’t plot and don’t stress yourself. More importantly, don’t consider yourself off the market just because there’s this guy in your life that you really, really like. It’s important to keep your options open and to give him enough space in order for him to come to you. Also, make sure you STOP checking your phone every minute, it will not make him text you more often.
Step 3 – Keep Cool and Focus on YOUR Life
Even if things are starting to get more serious, you’re meeting eachother more, you’re talking even more, you feel that a deeper connection has been made…keep cool and continue with your life, exactly the same as it was before you started dating.
Sure, you can give him a BIT more time but don’t drop everything and start focusing your life around him. Keep seeing your friends, going to clubs, working out, whatever it was that you were doing before he came into your life.
It’s important to realize that part of the reason he’s into you is the fact that you had a busy life outside of any relationship. He might have been with very needy girls and you are finally different. Don’t turn into those girls just because you’ve got a guy now.
Step 4 – The Time to Put a Label is Here…Or Is it?
It’s very important to realize one thing. Do you want to be with HIM? Or do you want to be with SOMEONE? You need to understand the essence of these questions in order to fully understand what you want from HIM.
Men love to be adored and appreciated. For us, it’s an amazing feeling when a woman that we’re into, sees who we truly are and wants to be with us regardless of our flaws.
On the other hand, we see a woman that just WANTS a boyfriend as a major turnoff. We know that if she’s that desperate, then it must mean there’s nothing special about us since any guy could easily fill that void in her life.
Many women get caught up on the desire to have a boyfriend that they fail to recognize and understand the person they’re dating. When a man feels that you appreciate his uniqueness, and when he sees that he’s contributing positively to your life, that man will never hesitate to make it official.
If you’re doing everything right and he still won’t put that label on you. Leave him! If he really cares and wants you in his life, he’ll never allow you to leave.
Step 5 – Give Him What He Wants – Appreciation, Acknowledgement and Respect
From a man’s point of view, respect and appreciation are the pillars of any relationship. All men really want, is to make that woman they love/like happy and to feel that you see and appreciate them for what they did. Appreciating him after you’ve seen all of his bad and weak sides will make him want you ever more. Unfortunately, this sort of appreciation can’t be faked. It has to be genuine. When he does something for you, doesn’t matter how big or small, show him that you noticed and that you appreciate it. The more specific you are with your compliments and acknowledgments, the better.
Scheduling s*x tends to “take away all the very real excuses I could otherwise use, like that I’m exhausted after working and getting the kids to bed,” says Holly Jenkins*. For couples in long-term relationships, planning a romantic interlude leads to a higher-quality, more enjoyable s*xual experience.
2. They’re Quick
Couples who maintain a good s*x life during challenging times—particularly when they’re new parents—have learned to perfect the quickie. If you can figure out how to use 20 minutes to your advantage, then you can avoid dry spells in your s*x life. Think of a place or time when the s*x was amazing, and use it like a meditation.
3. They Communicate
There’s no other way to understand what your partner wants, needs or enjoys other than talking. “Save those conversations for when you’re not having s*x,” says Gilchrest O’Neill. “Though, in the actual moment, speak up about small adjustments your partner can make to increase enjoyment.”
4. They Have a Lock
Even if you don’t have a physical lock, creating a sense of boundaries is key, says Sacha Mohammed—married 14 years, with 7 children. “I always made sure the children were put to bed on time when they were little so my husband and I could have our time together; the kids were also taught to always knock to announce their presence.” According to Zdrok Wilson, “each couple needs to evaluate their environment and determine the optimal conditions for great s*x.”
5. They Experiment
“Be open to different ways of expressing yourself sexually,” says Jenkins. You have to find the right balance: Don’t be so conventional that it’s boring, but don’t be so adventurous that you lose your intimacy—or level of comfort. Maybe just get out of the house. “Many couples report that they have the best s*x when they’re not at home,” says Zdrok Wilson.
6. They Avoid Excuses
Don’t let excuses take on a life of their own. To use one example, the kids aren’t needy babies forever, and before you know it, s*x is so far on the back burner that it’s fallen completely off the stove. “Brainstorm solutions to the things that get in the way of having s*x,” suggests Gilchrest O’Neill. However, if the root of your excuses isn’t fixable—and there are underlying problems or resentments—then consider seeing a therapist.
7. They Look Good
It’s not just about pleasing your partner’s eye. Taking care of yourself makes you feel good about yourself. Not only that, but your libido is dependent on your overall health. “When you feel unhealthy, tired, ill or lacking in energy, you’re not likely to be motivated to engage in regular s*xual activity,” says Zdrok Wilson. So, do whatever makes you feel sexy, and he’s guaranteed to notice.