It's easy to make New Year's resolutions. And it's even easier to break them. According to research published in the Journal of Clinical Psychology, nearly half of all Americans set goals for the upcoming year, butonly 8 percent achieve them. However, there are lots of ways to increase your odds of success.
Have you ever held onto a piece of jewellery from an ex? You’re definitely not alone. 80% of us keep hold of the bling given by an ex once the relationship is over. But while some of us are content wearing items that were once tokens of love, others want to ditch the sentiment, and fast.
Take advantage of new technology; text and send e-cards. With so many of us pressed for time, why not use technology to “keep in touch” during the day.A compliment, an affection or a quick “Hello, You are being thought of” via text can spark anyone’s day. E-cards are fast, and convenient.There are many sites that allow you to send them for free. You can find any type of sentiment from cute and funny, to serious and romantic or teasingly sexy. The bonus is that you can include a personal message along with it if you’d like.
Hold hands, hug and give quick kisses often. Nothing is as good for the soul and the emotional health of a person as the human touch. As teenagers, we hold hands, give quick kisses as hello and goodbye and cuddle as we sit close. Why not keep that sense of youth no matter how old we are or how long we have been have together as a couple? Holding hands keeps a connection and closeness, no matter what we are doing. An enthusiastic hug uplifts us; a quick kiss says “glad to see you”.
Write old fashioned love letters. There is nothing like the power of the written word. The idea that a person would sit and attempt to convey their feeling through words is not only a heart warming gesture, but one that can be renewed over and over again through each reread. When you need an emotional lift, you can revisit them and instantly get the emotional recharge. Rereading a partner’s love letters instantly brings you to the intensity when the relationship was young. Writing letters throughout the relationship tells your partner those feelings are still alive and well.
Praise and thank you...and more praise. Rather than concentrating on what he or she “doesn’t do anymore”, think about what he/she does. He may not bring you flowers as he did in the beginning of your courtship, but his consideration in packing your lunch or giving you some time with the girls is another type of “blossom”. If she doesn’t seem to be as affectionate as when you first dated, appreciate her watching the game with you, especially if she is not a sports fan.
Learn something “new” together. Get together and try to learn something new to keep the relationship fresh and going. These things make it interesting for you to be with each other.
Take dance lessons, take an art class or learn to ice skate together! Take a day trip to a new place neither of you have ever visited before. If you look back on your life, you probably connected with people whom you shared new events or experiences, something you experienced together for the first time. Those experiences create closeness. Find something that can be a “first” for the two of you. You might also develop a new interest the two of you can enjoy!
Make love often and with passion. The beauty of a long term sexual relationship is that the intimacy builds over the years. That intimacy makes sex much more genuine, gratifying and fulfilling. It is also an area that is not often put high on the importance scale. Work, career, school, and kids often exhaust our energy so we find it hard to “be in the mood." Make the intimate part of your relation a high priority.
Strengthen your art of conversation. If you find yourself with “nothing to talk about anymore”, find something to start the conversation. Fill your partner in on the “funny“ things that happened at work, the gossip; anything trivial and interesting. Remember, we all need to use our partners as a “sounding board," but if that is the only conversation that we are having with our “significant other," even the most sympathetic listener can have a breaking point. Make “sharing your day” a pleasure event, not a dreaded evil.
Be a good listener. There still is the time when your partner will need you to be there, just to listen. You have probably heard the joke a thousand times and heard the family issue twice that often, so listening to your partner is not always easy. The extra effort, however, can be priceless. Remember, often people don’t want their problems solved, just a shoulder to lean on. Taking away the burden of “fixing it," might make it easier.
Take care of yourself; mind, body and spirit. Be passionate about life. There is truth to the belief that if we nourish the child in us our spirits can stay young, even when our outer body doesn’t. Stay young in mind and spirit. Take care of your health, emotional and physical. It is much easier to keep a relationship young when you exude that aura yourself. Start by keeping yourself “young at heart." • Keeping a relationship vibrant for years can be a challenge, but that doesn’t have to be a negative. As with all challenges, once achieved, the success becomes much sweeter, the accomplishment more exhilarating. That kind of energy is certain to give a kick start to anyone’s relationship!
Try to understand the other person perfectly. You might be of two completely different mindsets, but you must know you are together because you are meant to be. So don't spoil it. Whenever the other person does something wrong or doesn't arrive on time, don't start by being so aggressive. You must first ask the person what happened in a calm way and tell that you understand, so don't worry. These small consoling words can strengthen your relationship greatly.
I’ve considered 2013 the year of improving my marriage. After a rather rocky start to learning the rules of writing about love and relationships (short lesson: don’t write about any problems about your marriage online), I started to get in the swing of things a bit.
Tucked in a corner behind her computer in a spacious office on the eighth floor of the Ridge Towers in Accra, an ever-smiling young woman of average built and height constantly maps out ways to tackle the challenges that affect the quality of service provided by her employer of about eight years, MTN Ghana.
During this festive season, friends and families will serve you food when you visit them. There are also going to be countless numbers of parties and events at which food and drinks will be playing an important role.
In case you need more of a reason to keep the sugar jar full, it turns out the sweet stuff comes in pretty handy around the house. Here are some of the most surprising and unusual ways to put it to good use.
Post break-up, you're bound to get it: The dreaded invite to the party/picnic/wedding where you know your ex will be. But instead of viewing it like the sequel to Doomsday, start prepping for it like a big red carpet event —one where he's not the focus of your entire evening, just the inspiration for you not wearing a pair of unwashed jeans out of the house (again).
Let's face it. Guys don’t like “the talk”. In fact, most guys don’t like discussing their relationships or their feelings. Now please don’t shoot the messenger. I’m on your side, but we need to have our own little “talk”.
There are a few things that should be strictly personal. You and your bum chum may believe that friendship is all about loving, caring and sharing. While that may be true, but there are a few things that should be absolutely personal and private. Here are a few things that should be in that list.
Your toiletries: We are not saying that you should act miserly and not share your toothpaste, but sharing your brush is a definite no-no. Also things like your comb should be yours alone. It doesn’t really matter how close you are with your friend, or if it is an unexpected overnight stay, somethings just can’t be shared.
Your undergarménts: If sharing your toiletries is not done, then sharing your undergarment is a sin. It’s just too unhygienic, no matter how many times you decide to wash it. Girl, sharing your clothes is fine, but what’s undernéath it, stays right there. The best thing to do would have a spare pair of fresh undergarments at your home.
Cosmetics: Each skin type is different from the other, while you may not have sensitive skin but the same may not hold true for your friend. Make sure you don’t get into some major trouble with your skin by using your friend’s products.
Credit card/debit card pin number: No matter how close your friend is, you just cannot share banking details with him/her. Similarly, don’t be offended if he/she refuses to tell you about his/her savings or salary. There are somethings that are best kept private.
Your ex and her ex: No matter how many times anyone says they are ‘okay’ with their best friend dating their ex, it just doesn’t hold true. That applies both ways. Don’t be surprised if your best friend stops responding to your calls because you’ve gotten to paly with her ex.
A Woman Who Smiles (more powerful than you might realize)
A woman who smiles makes it easier for a man to approach her by conveying an attitude of confidence, warmth and playfulness. Since many women are fearful of giving men the wrong impression, they frequently guard their smiles. If the only knew that smiling is one of the things men can’t resist.
While this approach is safer, it inadvertently sends the wrong message that she is someone who is overly cautious because she has been hurt. In addition, smiling is a sign of acceptance.
Men often need some signal that it is safe to approach a woman before they’re willing to risk introducing themselves (unless they are intoxicated).
A Woman Who Listens (instead of dominating the conversation)
Women are generally perceived as rarely really listening to men, at least not beyond a few minutes. Most of the time, a few minutes is all men really need. But since most men hate to be rejected, it is easier for them to keep conversations superficial.
Men expect most women to want to talk, rather than be willing to listen. If they happen to meet a woman who listens with her eyes (looks at him while he’s talking) as well as her ears, they are intrigued.
If she continues to listen and not take over the conversation, she’s the kind of woman that men can’t resist and want to spend more time getting to know her better. If fact, this is one of the best things you can do on a first date.
A Woman Who Dresses Feminine (men are really visual)
Everyone knows that men are visual. However, women often forget just how helpless men are to what they see. The right visual stimulation can hypnotize any man. Unfortunately, women hear this and often become fearful. They mistakenly believe that men only notice perfect women.
Forget perfect! In spite of what you read about in magazines, men don’t expect a woman to be perfect. If you really want to be noticed by men, think colors, dresses which highlight your curves.
Men basically like any woman who has that adorable quality that men can’t resist. It isn’t that men don’t find women attractive in pants or when they are dressed comfortably – they just don’t notice them as easily. It doesn’t catch their eye like sparkly earrings, pretty colors or flowing dresses and long hair does.
Conversely, a powerfully dressed woman (think lots of red) makes most men think of s*x, or not notice her at all. She may have a soft side, but if men can’t see it, they often don’t know it exists. The more feminine (softer) a woman dresses, the more men she will attract.