I have fallen in love with a boy in my class. I even wish he stayed in my house.
My mates tease me by calling me by his name but I want them to stop, so that I can concentrate on my studies.
What should I do?
Once you have made your intentions known to your friends, they will continue to tease you because of the boy.
You know what? It is not everything that you have to talk to your friends about. You are now an adolescent and may find people of the opposite sex attractive, but the way you handle this is very important.
You can overcome that feeling once you join all your mates in school to have fun, study, etc.
At your age once you talk about loving a boy or girl, your friends will be excited about it because they may also be feeling the same way but would want to hide their feelings and mock you with what you have told them.
So learn to behave in a mature way by finding ways to overcome such things. It’s always good to tell an adult you trust such things. He or she can and will help you, not your friends who are inexperienced just like you.
As a children, your duty is to study to get this behind you and study because that will help you build a good future for yourself.
I am 13 years and in JHS One. My friends say I am pretty but I ignore those comments. My problem now is that boys are worrying me, both in school and in my neighbourhood.
Some of them offer me things that I have not asked for.
A boy advised me to accept their gifts and disgrace them in public when they approach me. Should I listen to his advice?
It is good to seek advice when you are not sure what to do, but I suggest you speak with adults you are close to and trust.
Both boys and girls may find you pretty and that, obviously, will make you happy. The important thing, however, is to be able to lead your life as a child and not let your beauty cause you grief in the long run.
My dear JQ, it feels good to receive such compliments from your friends and, above all, boys. You are still a child and have just become a teenager. So ignore all those boys and do what is right for yourself by determining not to give in to any of them, no matter how they look at or treat you.
And remember never to accept gifts from anyone, particularly boys or men. They surely will look for something you cannot provide for them in return. Do not be rude to anyone.
The question you should ask yourself is: If you accept their gifts, will you have the courage to ignore them? No! So just avoid such boys.
I am a boy of 11 years and in Class Five. My friends often tease me in class, which upsets me. So I also hit them anyhow. One day, I hit somebody which put me in great trouble.
Auntie Betty, please how can you help me solve my problem?
Being angry is a normal human reaction to situations we all go through. It is, however, the way we handle our anger that makes us people who are tolerant or not of other people’s views about us. If we are able to handle anger well, all people around us will love us and would always want to be in our company.
You should also understand that teasing is part of life, particularly with young children such as you. Even adults sometimes tease one another and so you should not get angry with your friends. If you continue to do that, you will lose all of them and become lonely in school.
Can you imagine going to school just for a day without having anyone to talk to or play with? Would you be able to stay in school for a whole week when everyone deserts you? I am sure you won’t.
Why don’t you sometimes ignore them or leave the scene immediately they begin to mock you. When they realise that you are not hurt by what they do, they will stop after some time. Sometimes it’s also good to join them to laugh and have some fun.
Kwaku, you do not have to be violent, otherwise you will suffer more serious problems as you grow up. It’s good to stand up for yourself but it pays to be patient, so try your best and do so a day at a time. All the best.
Dear Auntie Betty, I am a 13-year-old-girl in JHS One. My classmates are quite intelligent, but one thing that is distracting their attention from their books is boy-girl relationship. I have been trying to solve the problem, but it seems not to work.
Dear Gifty, As you enter your adolescent age and begin to change physically and emotionally , you naturally get attracted to the opposite sex. However, that does not mean you should engage in a relationship because you are still young.
And as you rightly said, such relationships can seriously distract you from the important things that you need to focus on. They can also expose you to heath risks and destroy your goals in life. That is why I always advise you to keep away from such relationships.
The world has become very challenging and the only thing that children can do for themselves in order to fit in well is to get proper education. Since you are one of them, you cannot solve the problem. The best thing to do is to confide in your school counsellor or a trusted teacher to help. Good luck.
DEAR Auntie Betty, I am a girl of 14 years and completed my basic education this year. I like people because my pastor told me that human beings are all the same no matter where they come from. Since then, I have had problems with my parents, especially my dad, who thinks that every boy I make friends with is in a relationship with me. But I have never thought of being in a relationship at all. Unfortunately for me, people believe what my dad is saying; so they call me ‘town helper’ which makes me feel bad.
I have lost almost all my friends because they say my dad is too rude and harsh on people.
Dear Ivy, Your pastor is right, all human beings are the same and should be treated with respect no matter where they come from. It is good to be nice to people but that does not mean that you should be seen associating with all manner of people.
For your parents or people to tag you as a bad girl means that you must be doing something wrong. The way you behave when you are around your friends may make people form their own opinions about you.
My dear Ivy, check the way you relate to people, so you do not raise eyebrows. The moment you are seen as a bad girl, it will be difficult for people to change their minds about you. It does not speak well of you as a young girl to make friends with only boys. This is because you can easily get tempted to cross the line.
You are still young, so it is not too late to turn things around. But that will depend on you from now on.
Your parents want the best for you, so make sure you relate to your female friends as well and they will gradually learn to trust you.
For the past two weeks, we have been looking at what a manifesto is and also discussed the manifestos of the New Patriotic Party (NPP) and the Progressive People’s Party (PPP).
Today, we will look at the National Democratic Congress (NDC) manifesto and what the party has in store for schoolchildren.
As you are aware, the NDC is the government in power now and has already done certain things with regard to education, as it promised in its manifesto four years ago.
The manifesto, this time, begins with the achievements the party has made in the past years.
Some of the party’s achievements include the following:
Provision of three million school uniforms for children in needy and deprived communities across the country. With a population of 5.2 million schoolchildren, this means that three out of every five schoolchildren have been given school uniforms;
More than 40 million exercise books have also been distributed to about 4.8 million pupils in basic schools nationwide as part of the party’s commitment to invest in children.
Eliminated 40 per cent of schools under trees with the construction of more than 1,700 new basic school building.
NDC manifesto plans to pursue these programmes for 2013-2017
Eliminate the remaining 60 per cent of identified schools under trees.
Expand the coverage of the School Feeding Programme to all public basic schools in rural and needy communities.
Continue the construction programme to eliminate the “Shift System” from the public school system.
Construct 200 new Community Day Senior High Schools across the country, with emphasis on districts where there are no such schools.
Strengthen the Computerised Schools Selection and Placement System (CSSPS) to place all JHS graduates into second-cycle institutions and other skill development programmes, including apprenticeship programmes.
Provide facilities for students with disability to pursue their academic programmes effectively.